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We will be making a trip to Pujjis our annual honeymoon.
After years of trying to sort out the problems in our relationship,
we found Pujjis.
Their home was a warm and loving nest where we could unravel in a very deep and profound way. They saw us in some pretty vulnerable and painful spaces. Their complete acceptance and understanding of us and lack of judgement allowed us to be courageous and take leaps of faith which free us to get on with our lives together. Not only did they help us to understand and work through the issues that were on the surface at the time we visited, they also taught us a new way of dealing with other issues as they come along. We are feeling relief and gratitude.  - Maria and James Grant
Brisbane, Australia Pujjis is definitely the place to go for a rest, relaxation and reflection. It is thoroughly nourishing in unexpected ways and real treat for the soul. Give yourself this wonderful gift
- - Jasbindar Singh
Auckland, New Zealand More about Marriage Counseling Stress is normal - floods, droughts, eruptions, landslides, cyclones, earthquakes, storms. Tension builds up and then needs to be released. It is no different in relationships. Large and small differences build up and if there is not an outlet, no way to resolve the tensions, then things get stuck. It is normal for relationships to go through a cycle of stress and resolution or in other words moving from the known into the unknown. This process can be uncomfortable and if the relationship has been stuck for some time, can be very painful. People have different reactions to this stuckness. Some are angry and fiery, some busy and distracted, some cold and distant, others blaming and upset. We believe that these behaviours are all symptoms of unsolved conflict. The conflict gets stuck and you find yourself going over and over the same issue without a positive outcome. It is at these times that it is helpful to have support outside the relationship. What we offer in Marriage Counseling is to slow things down and help you actually hear what the other is saying. To be able to hear what the other needs and respond to that need. Our experience is that when we can hear the needs behind the words, and not react to the way it is said (ie blame, criticism, threats, complaints, judgment, generalization) – then the resolution becomes obvious. In saying this we are very aware how hard it is to listen in this way, especially if there is a long history of hurt and misunderstanding. Our commitment is to support you to do this. Not just so you can resolve the issue that is evident at the time, but to be able to move through any issue that arises in your relationship. It is not about attributing blame, it is not about working out who is wrong and who is right, it is not about compromise. It is about listening differently, about understanding what the other is trying to say, and what they need. And it is about learning how to communicate your own feelings and needs so that the other can hear. When this happens, all the yummy things about intimate relationships start to flow. The warmth, companionship, support, caring, and joy spontaneously happen. We feel full and supported. Until the next time.  |
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